Every moment a new fresh soul enters the world.

An everyday miracle has taken place.

And sometimes, in the speed of life, with the nature of our society and the assembly line style birth experiences, the depth and truth and magic and sacredness of what has occurred for that new family isn’t fully felt. Mothers don’t always feel seen, heard, witnessed by a loving presence who can hold space for her and the magnitude of what she has accomplished. Men sometimes feel pushed aside and disempowered to rise to their new role of father. 

The truth is, birth trauma happens way more than it should, and even when we wouldn't use the word trauma to describe it, sometimes the experience of birth leaves women, men, families with confusing and disconnecting feelings. 

I see the positively transformational power of a births that elevate, and activates a mothers true instincts, her matressence; and also the birth experiences that leave more questions and longing, than activated instincts.

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We can’t turn back time, but perhaps we can slip into the quantum healing realms, and overlay a more healing story?

 

Birth Reclamation Ceremonies help to write a new narrative. Fully personalized by the family, a new experience can be crafted that encompasses as much of their words and wishes and visions for their birth as possible.

 An example could go something like this: 

While a very willing and trusted auntie or grandmother to tends to the new baby...

Candles are lit, sacred space opened.

The mother speaks any aspects of her story she wishes to revisit, release, or reclaim to a chosen witness(s) who tenderly hold the space and affirm her strength.

The Father or Partner is given this space as well if they wish.

 The mother may then begin slipping into gentle guided meditative mantras, rhythmic sounds simulating early labor, while a tub of warm floral scented water fills in the bathroom. The loving touch and continuous presence of her beloved. A slow dance of recreation. 

Climbing into the tub, a crescendo of rhythmic music or drums simulate the anticipation of the nearing “birth”. She is free to express any feeling, words, emotions, fears, or movements that come over her. No one tells her otherwise.  Perhaps her people are whispering words of power and encouragement over her. And when she is ready, when she has roared her final primal roar silently or out loud she is handed her sweet naked baby to claim and name and hold and cry for and exclaim to the world that they have arrived! 

The two then lay in the tub recalibrating their nervous systems, their hormones sync, the healing is collective. Perhaps encompassed by her partner,  the three then resonate with the  new energetic imprint of their birth experience. Marinating in their new divine connection.

  

A Birth Honoring Ceremony can be a way to honor an early loss or a birth experience with a difficult outcome. A way to mentally quiet any medicalised layer of the experience, and allow more time and space to feel, and express, honor and witness what was, and what is, within a sacred and intentionally personal container.